9.20.2011

self help for your fears

I just received the October issue of Horse & Rider, and read "Self Help for your Fears" written by Melinda Folse. It had some really good points, and suggestions, for what seems to be a very common struggle.

Early in the article it gives a stat from The American Horse Council, that out of 9.2 million horses in the US, 75% are owned by women over the age of 40. Wow! That got my attention. Most likely because I fall into that category, and share in the common fear struggle.

The article talks about putting fear in it's place, the right perspective, and gives six proactive exercises. The information is adapted from the author's recently released book  "The Smart Women's Guide to Midlife Horses" . The book appears to be pitched towards new midlife horses owners, but the article isn't - it is relevant to anyone.

I found the explanation and exercises the author shared from talking with Dr. Johnson to be interesting, and real. I can see how the exercises would help one sort out emotions, with a pro-active thought process.

The exercises are written and based on these six areas of thought: Why do I ride? What are my goals? What can I do, and how well can I do it? What am I afraid of? Visualize success, and the last exercise is to Create an action plan of small, accomplishable steps. There are thought provoking questions and guidance that accompany each exercise.

If you've read the article, or the book, let me know what you think - and if the exercises helped. I would like to try them, after our boys come home.

6 comments:

fernvalley01 said...

I will have to check it out, sounds like a great read

Kate said...

Does sound good - will look for it.

C-ingspots said...

I'm a woman of a certain age too, and experience fears that earlier on in my life weren't an issue at all. This book sounds like it might be helpful. Thanks for sharing, think I'll get it.
I've recently adopted an 11 year old Mustang who's as green as grass...what in the world was I thinking!? If I can master this relationship, then I'll have some of my confidence back for sure! Oh, did I mention that I pray a lot when I'm spending time with him? :)

Nuzzling Muzzles said...

Oh shoot, and I just let my subscription to Horse & Rider slide. I'll look into that book, though. I love the title. We actually have a horse trainer in our area who advertises that she specializing in helping horses and their riders overcome trauma and regain confidence. I thought that was a brilliant approach to her business, because almost every horse owner has had some kind of accident that changed her.

Nuzzling Muzzles said...

I loved what I previewed of the book, so I just downloaded it to my Kindle. Thanks for letting us know about it.

aurora said...

Thanks all, it was my pleasure - glad you found it of interest. The article is a good one. If you don't have access to the magazine, keep your eyes open. H&R is one of the more common equine magazines that I've seen many places, including Grocery Stores, Doc's Offices, Library's and of course Bookstores.

For anyone who hasn't already done so, if you click on the link above you can preview the book. I also suggest reading the 3 reviews, sounds like the book must be just as good as the article - or better.

C-ingspots, I think Mustang adoption is wonderful! I look forward to reading about the bond that is sure to grow.

How lucky are you Nuzzling, to have a kindle! Let us know how the book is, you will likely have it read before I even order it lol.